Are You a Coach or a Critic?

Do you ever talk to yourself? Sometimes I do.  I found out recently that I even talk to myself  when I am typing.  I found out because my children told me. Apparently, I nod and shake my head and smile or frown, and even speak quietly as I type. I’ve been told that I look very funny. I don’t believe them, of course.

The funny thing is that I don’t even realise that I am doing all this, and that’s the case for us when we talk to ourselves. Sometimes we say good things to ourselves and sometimes we are really harsh and unforgiving.

How do you know if you are being kind or unforgiving to yourself? Generally
speaking, the evidence is in the way you feel about what you are doing. If you
are feeling good about your work as a mother, homeschooler or friend, then you
are probably saying affirming and nurturing things to yourself. And you are
probably saying affirming and nurturing things to those around you too.

Some positive phrases you can include in your vocabulary:

• I am working well.

• I have learnt from this mistake.

• That’s a good job done.

• I like the way I did that.

• I am learning all the time.

• I am good at this.

• I am enjoying this.

• I am thankful.

• There is a good side to all this.

• You have learnt from this mistake.

• You are working well.

• You are good at this.

• You are learning all the time.

• I like the way you did that.

Some positive attitudes to apply in daily life:

• When you fail, look at it as a learning experience and a temporary setback.

• When you have a success, look at it as a positive experience, reward yourself and
plan to repeat it.

• When you receive a compliment, accept it graciously because it is a gift to you.

• When you meet people remember to smile and be positive.

• Don’t show off; it never looks good.

• Don’t put yourself down; it never looks good.

Remember to be a kind coach to yourself and your family; cheer people on when
they do well, encourage them when they make mistakes. You’ll be surprised at the
good results.

Recommended Reading:

The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference
by Malcolm

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
by Stephen Covey

For the Family’s Sake: The Value of the Home in Everyone’s Life
by Susan
Schaeffer MacAulay

The Hidden Art of Homemaking
by Edith Schaeffer

What Is a Family?
by Edith Schaeffer

Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, Financial and Time Reserves to Overloaded
by Richard Swenson

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